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Old 19th July 2018, 03:06 PM   #1
C2LK
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She does little to help around the house- we both work...

Hi everyone, I’m something of a stranger to forums etc but I have a dilemma and really need some advice.

I’ve been married for nearly 5 years, relatively happily, and I have 1 son and 1 step-son. My wife and are I both full-time students, I’m approaching the end of my 1st year (resit willing) and she is going into her 3rd year in September.

Anyway, the crux of the issue, is that she does nothing to help around the house (and please, no comments about a ‘man’s perspective’ or anything like that)- I mean, she literally does nothing. I clean, I cook, I wash, I tidy, I get the kids ready (drop them off and pick them up nearly everyday), I’ve even found myself coming downstairs to get her a drink while she lounges on the sofa watching TV or glued to her mobile on the other side of the kitchen wall.

I’m not great at dropping hints; I mean, I might be great but they go unheeded, and things usually reach a tipping point and I lose it- Back in May, I lost it big time, told her I’d had enough and things needed to change. We were going on holiday the next week and she said she’d try when we got back.

It’s now the middle of July and obviously there’s been no change. If anything it’s gotten worse. I don’t consider myself a clean freak, but today alone I’ve had to rinse out the shower after she’d had a bath, pick up countless scraps of rubbish, and take every plate and cup she’s used back to the kitchen, plus, take both barrels because a very important cheque she’d left on the hoover wasn’t there anymore.

She recently got back from a foreign placement (2 weeks abroad), and I feel horrible for even thinking this, but I really didn’t miss her one bit- the kids were a bit tetchy from time to time, but otherwise things ran like clockwork.

I don’t think this is divorce or break-up worthy, yet, but I’m really starting to resent her. She does suffer from depression, which she claims affects her motivation etc, but she always seems to have plenty of motivation to visit friends / put into hobbies and the like.

It also really annoys me that in an effort to make up for not doing anything she keeps planning trips away, which is great in essence, but as students we’re not exactly loaded, and guess who ends up doing all the packing / unpacking? In all honesty, I’d give up a weekend away just to have her do something to help for a change.

Does anyone have any ideas / experience to help?

Thanks in advance.
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