sadbob

hi raymond

thanks for the advice. i had a good think about things since my original post and had decided to make more of an effort to 'actively listen' to her even if im not really interested in what shes saying. Yesterday after a long day in the park (im in London Uk so it hit 25' C) we all got home, hot, tired and irritable. Yet I put that aside in my head, sorted us all out and after dinner made a point of sitting on the sofa with her and massaging her feet, (mine hurt like hell but im too ticklish down there). As she was telling me about an old friend she'd come across after 20 odd years (ala Facebook) I couldnt help but think 'my god this is really dull, all I really want to do is read my Tom Clancy novel!'. But I put that aside, listened carefully, asked a couple of questions and all was good. We didnt have any little criticisms or put down. It really rounded the day off nicely.

I suppose what the say is try, 'if you give a little you get a little'!