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Old 6th April 2011, 02:55 PM   #9
Helen_uk
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Re: Help

Hunny, being a widow isn't losing a marriage . And losing a cheating husband has no stigma attached....

The thing is , by doing nothing and putting up with it what you're really doing is enabling his behaviour .

He's also forcing you to live a lie by pretending everything is rosy.

I know how difficult it is to reach a decision about ending a relationship. I put up with my ex and his lies for 3 or more years because I loved him .... in reality what I loved was the person I had first thought he was.... It does take courage to stand up and say you're not putting up with this any longer, and it's soul destroying to live with a cheat and a liar.

Had he admitted what he'd done and shown any remorse , or an inclination to put things right then there would be hope. As it stands though I think you are going to have to make some tough choices.
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