[Raymond]

I am so glad you came back Sasha. It would have been a tragedy if you departed because you felt some condemnation coming across on here. We are not here for that. If there is any straight talk it would be done in love from most. You talk about your defence but beloved sister you do not need a defence. We are not judges, or shouldn't be. We both know who the accuser of the brethren is. You have been walking through this tragedy for a long time. Please take an online hug from me.

There has been talk of your behaviour and how to be in this situation. Yes you should be like a christian as some of us are endeavouring to be as well, but in no way do you endorse his immoral behaviour for one minute. Please be clear on that. It not only harms the marriage but also your son needs protection as you will readily know from your husband's history. You don't want to be an enabler of this behaviour by some half baked theory on love. You certainly need God's wisdom in the situation.

Personally I don't believe that God expects you to show romantic love with this going on as the porn will have cut though that. Rather you need to confront this behaviour, not necessarily in a militant way, but certainly in a consistent way. Who else will do that for him? Of course we have to love, even our enemies it says, but loving our enemies does not mean we enable their sin for one minute. You've said that to a certain extent on your replies and I agree with it.

I also thouroughly agree with Forever's comments on the financial situation. You have certainly made your contributions to the household and courts these days do recognise this in the settlements they make if it comes to that.