Still Sad Guy

Mystified,
That is my point exactly. I'm on the other side though (I'm a male), my Mrs. it appears would rather M than be with me. She doesn't communicate to me what turns her on and it hurts because would rather escape into her own little world rather than "be with me". I tend to agree with you when you say the warm, caring body on the other side would be a greater turn on than the alternative. By her not communicating to me, my mind goes into overdrive and then thinks stuff (which may be farfetched) like I bet she does wish it were ANOTHER warm body next to hers or "mr sad guy" is pathetic and not a decent lover. It kills me when she says that to her, sex is not a major part (100%) of our relationship but then again, it's not too good at the moment. After talking things over, I'm starting to look at her sexually in a different light and am now "losing the spark" at least for now. I don't get a statement she made to me when she said " Truly and honestly, for the most part, I don't care if I "O" or not", I am satisfied. Meaning she was satisfied with it just being us. That's not consistent with what's been going on and she's just trying to pacify me. I'm not that naive. All I'm asking for is a little honesty. Men, Women, any comments please?