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Old 14th December 2004, 03:14 PM   #49
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Re: masturbation, porn and marriage

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Originally Posted by Mystified
Even though I've read countless posts on the internet from women whose husbands are masturbating to porn instead of making love to them, I have always had a hard time understanding why this is. It's as if there is something missing in the story. I understand porn offers fantasy and variety but it is still just images on a screen and not a real live warm body. I may be wrong but I suspect these men are no longer aroused by their wives and girlfriends and that's why they masturbate. I can't imagine any man who's partner really turns him on would elect to masturbate in front of a computer rather than indulge ALLl his senses in the bedroom.
It depends on the situation, Mystified. Like I've said, I have sex with my husband a few times a day. He's not lacking in that department. He finds me extremely sexy and is turned on by me constantly. He isn't electing to masturbate RATHER than make love. Not all of them are. He masturbates if I am in bed or showering, to get rid of the excess horniness. I can't be expected to have sex with my husband four times a day, just to combat his desire for that moment. I have my own things I need to do. He doesn't expect me to do it , either and I don't mind him masturbating.
Masturbation is a normal healthy thing to do. It is not something that he does in avoidance of sex with me. Be careful of what you say unless you know it is fact. That offended me.
I actually normally don't mind porn at all -I worked in porn for some time- it is the lying and hiding that I didn't like. It made me feel like we couldn't communicate as I thought we could.
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