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Old 22nd December 2013, 12:21 PM   #6
Raymond
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Re: Hoping to move forward

I think he is trying but it feels contrived to him. I think he should ignore this and press ahead. He can change. I have.

My wife's love language is touch but I had to learn that. It took a while but now it is natural for me and she is happier. I did love her but she needed it expressed in that way as well, which I had to learn. She said mine is acts of service as well.

Like him I used to start hugging her when I wanted sex. She picked me up on that and I felt so convicted because she was right. My daughter in law has the same problem. Hers is touch but my son doesn't do it. Won't even do the Love Language test at the end of the book.

I know it is not all about that but it is what we are picking up from your posts. Loving you all round, beyond feelings as well, is very important in a marriage. I put it at number one for a husband personally. One cannot love their wives too much but you have to love yourself as well to be free enough to do it.
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