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Old 19th February 2010, 03:09 PM   #46
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Yeah, I do seem to have gone off track somewhat but sex or lack of it can be a real cause for resentment in a marriage. It's good to get advice/feedback which I'll definitely use.

Thanks Raymond.
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Old 19th February 2010, 06:57 PM   #47
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No you are right. Sex is extremely important. I'm glad it came up.

I find the breakthroughs come when you are able to talk about it with your spouse. It can take years to get to that place, but frank talk in love can yield huge dividends. If you don't say it how can I know seems to be a good thing to remember. It's all part of growing closer I think.

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Old 21st February 2010, 05:08 PM   #48
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My sister just brought round her wedding invite and it was just to me and the boys. At first I didn't know whether to feel upset or relieved but you know what, I actually think stuff it, they're all adults, let them sort it out, I'm not going to let it bother me.

I've had a really good weekend, hope everyone else has too.
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Old 22nd February 2010, 06:39 PM   #49
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Good for you Yoga. It's their problem. You have tried to help but one cannot always fix it.

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Old 23rd February 2010, 11:24 PM   #50
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At first I didn't know whether to feel upset or relieved but you know what, I actually think stuff it, they're all adults, let them sort it out, I'm not going to let it bother me.
Whoo-hoo! Yoga, how you've changed!!

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Old 23rd February 2010, 11:32 PM   #51
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Ha ha I know, great isn't it!!!
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Old 24th February 2010, 01:29 PM   #52
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I love your new attitude Yoga!
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Old 24th February 2010, 07:26 PM   #53
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Hehe Yoga - like you I also wish my husband was more turned on - he never will tell me though what does turn him on, maybe he's scared I'll get offended.

Lately I have been thinking that I need to stop caring so much about chores and things that need to be done and care more about being healthy first and then spending time with my family and enjoying the time - be it sexual or otherwise. Same with my daughter. Things still need to be done, but they always do. And they tend to get done better and faster when my need for companionship and love and quality time are met first. Plus then sometimes my husband actually helps me.

Heres to three times tomorrow then lol.

Well done on the attitude - it really is their problem not yours.
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Old 27th February 2010, 06:03 PM   #54
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Thanks Gillian, so do I

You sound like me Brotan, I'm very tidy around the house but I've come to realise that if you look there will always be something that needs doing. Compromise I think is the word. All work and no play and all that ......
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Old 24th March 2010, 11:18 PM   #55
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Just realised it's been ages since I last posted, not a lot to report really, we're just ticking along quite nicely, still have ups and downs but the downs don't last nearly as long as before.

I have some exciting news (for us anyway). Some of you may remember last year all the problems H and I had with our neighbour over the boundary and garden, well, she moved yesterday. I'm ecstatic and sooooooo pleased. It's caused so many arguments between H and I and alot of tension and now she's gone :-)

Sorry ......... not much of an update but it's major news in our household xx
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Old 25th March 2010, 12:00 AM   #56
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Hey Yoga,

It's always good news when a source of tension and unhappiness is removed! Congratulations!

You sound really happy; I'm thrilled for you!! You surely deserve it

Thanks for all your support, by the way...

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Old 31st March 2010, 06:25 PM   #57
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Yeah I'm alot happier these days Ray. We still have arguments of course but it's the way we deal with them now that's better ...... no sulking, shouting, silences, just talking it over and then moving on ......

Hope you're doing ok, must check your thread and Georgie's and Jellybean's and Mark's, well everyone's really You know I'll always help if I can xxx
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Old 31st March 2010, 07:27 PM   #58
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You show it can be done when you work at it a little. I know there is a long way to go. None of us are perfect but we can enjoy unity, love, sex and whatever in marriage which are great plusses in life.

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Old 2nd April 2010, 10:48 PM   #59
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I couldn't have done it without all your help and advice Raymond
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Old 3rd April 2010, 10:57 AM   #60
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Thank you Yoga. You have encouraged him into this position although I know there is a way to go. How is his job going?

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