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Old 8th May 2015, 08:38 PM   #751
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No ralf. When you are dead you are dead. You only get one go at this. Make the best of it.
I have its not worked I did my best
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Old 8th May 2015, 08:44 PM   #752
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Don't talk like this, Ralf. That's scary. You don't know what life has in store. Great happiness could be ahead for you. None of us know what's in store, because we can't read the future. But you don't want to miss out on possible joy. You've got to hang on.

I'm going to therapy but call the samaritans if you are struggling tonight. I think you said you've called before. Take care of yourself, Ralf.
no chance my time is done I will never be happy again im finished I know when Im beaten its not happened much but now I know I am
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Old 8th May 2015, 10:18 PM   #753
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I have its not worked I did my best
Its still early days ralf, not even a year. You are better than you were, and that improvement will carry on.
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Old 8th May 2015, 10:20 PM   #754
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no chance my time is done I will never be happy again im finished I know when Im beaten its not happened much but now I know I am
Some of our lack of progress can be due to our attitude. I know its hard, but if you can use that therapy you have just learnt, and gradually change the way you think and what you to say to yourself, it will help a lot.
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Old 8th May 2015, 10:22 PM   #755
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I agree. I don't subscribe to this 'my sitch is worse than your sitch' type thinking. They are all cr*p. The challenge though is how we deal with it and we all deal differently. I no longer feel sorry for myself. I no longer feel like a victim. I'm off into the city right now to have fun. Ironically WW was complaining on txt about how she doesn't have a life any more. HA, before she broke our marriage she could go out when ever she liked. Ah well, she made her bed so she can lie in it.
By not having a life any more, does she mean she cant go out when she likes? IF so then what about the most important things in life like her health, her son, her marriage, her home. Dont they count? Seems not.
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Old 8th May 2015, 10:35 PM   #756
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By not having a life any more, does she mean she cant go out when she likes? IF so then what about the most important things in life like her health, her son, her marriage, her home. Dont they count? Seems not.
Yes. This is what she means. The irony being that before she wrecked everything she could go out whenever she liked. We trusted each other. When she broke that I wasn't there for her. So it her choices that led her to have less of a life than she already enjoyed. Ah well, go figure.
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Old 8th May 2015, 10:55 PM   #757
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Yes. This is what she means. The irony being that before she wrecked everything she could go out whenever she liked. We trusted each other. When she broke that I wasn't there for her. So it her choices that led her to have less of a life than she already enjoyed. Ah well, go figure.
I will never understand why to some people a 'life' is merely going out socialising and drinking. To me when my children were growing up, my life was all about family and home and being a good mum.
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Old 8th May 2015, 11:12 PM   #758
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I will never understand why to some people a 'life' is merely going out socialising and drinking. To me when my children were growing up, my life was all about family and home and being a good mum.
Yea, well there in lies the mind of the WW. Makes no sense at all. But I'm beyond that now. She can do what ever she likes. Her loyal loving husband isn't there to support that any more. We should have done that journey together but she decided she wanted to be 10 years younger. Kinda embarrassing for her TBH.
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Old 9th May 2015, 09:31 PM   #759
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So guys. How are we all doing. WW is out with OM. I'm home with S9. We've been having fun. I actually don't care where she is anymore. I'm done. It's quite liberating.
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Old 10th May 2015, 12:06 AM   #760
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So guys. How are we all doing. WW is out with OM. I'm home with S9. We've been having fun. I actually don't care where she is anymore. I'm done. It's quite liberating.
I thought you both agreed there would be no watching S9 when she was with the OM?
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Old 10th May 2015, 05:49 AM   #761
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I thought you both agreed there would be no watching S9 when she was with the OM?
Morning. Not quite. It was a boundry I set but she managed to hoodwink me. But, as my brother said. Why? She's going to do it anyway so surely S9 is better off at home with me. And he's right. I'm just not going to make it easy for her that's all.
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Old 10th May 2015, 01:10 PM   #762
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Hi NDY I hope your ok, what are you up to today ?
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Old 10th May 2015, 03:23 PM   #763
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Morning. Not quite. It was a boundry I set but she managed to hoodwink me. But, as my brother said. Why? She's going to do it anyway so surely S9 is better off at home with me. And he's right. I'm just not going to make it easy for her that's all.
True. I'll bet S9 has enjoyed you being at home again.
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Old 10th May 2015, 05:39 PM   #764
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Hi guys. I'm doing good. S9 and I have been having fun. We had a bush fire here last night which was cool. Then shooting and settled in to watch a movie. Today we've been fly fishing although the weather is grim. S9 is loving having his dad back, which I think is annoying the WW. He's always shouting for me and asking me for things. WW is starting to remember how close he and I were. Still, she wrote a really stern note about finances yesterday. So I wrote her one back saying she can make this easy or hard. Her choice. Well, this morning she was ok with me. Go figure. She also came home on Saturday. That was something I didn't expect.
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Old 10th May 2015, 10:54 PM   #765
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Hi guys. I'm doing good. S9 and I have been having fun. We had a bush fire here last night which was cool. Then shooting and settled in to watch a movie. Today we've been fly fishing although the weather is grim. S9 is loving having his dad back, which I think is annoying the WW. He's always shouting for me and asking me for things. WW is starting to remember how close he and I were. Still, she wrote a really stern note about finances yesterday. So I wrote her one back saying she can make this easy or hard. Her choice. Well, this morning she was ok with me. Go figure. She also came home on Saturday. That was something I didn't expect.
Glad you had a good day and also glad you stuck up for yourself. Good for you.
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