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Originally Posted by Raymond
Hi Arcos.
This is very difficult with your wife feeding them lies. If you were not able to see them it would be more devastating as the lies could endure even through to adulthood.
As you are seeing them all you can do is state the truth as you are doing but don't go over the top with defence as this would be a lot of pressure on them. Try and put them first. Your kindness and fathers love will feed them something else. The older they get the more appreciation they will have of the truth and you. The younger they are the more they will feel your spirit rather than your words so keep doing what you are doing and long term the lies will be exposed without you having to have a big fight over it.
Raymond
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Raymond,
As always your words of wisdom hit the mark!
BUT....
I am in the middle of an email to friends and family explaining WHY I am tired, WHY I have had enough, WHY I am finding it very hard to continue with this, with life.
This latest 'twist' is killing me. I cannot continue with this 'fight' that my ex insists upon at the expense of the children.
How can I do that??
That is just a cruel and unfair as she is doing with her lies?
I have done nothing but cry all day today. I have been so depressed about this change of 'tactics' by my ex and cannot see a way forward for them other than for me to drop out of this.
I hear what you are saying about being more devastating if I didn't see them but this current situation is really going to destroy a little mans life, maybe two!