Hi Guys,
I used to have a very lengthy thread here. My marriage ended 2.5 years ago after 16 years. I'm happy to say that I am now getting back on track with my life, after a lot of emotional upheaval and hard work. My ex had an affair, denied it - right up to the day before he married her! We have 2 kids together, and the financial split was complex and draining. However, I've made it through to the other side.
I now write a blog called restartyourlife.info - to try to help people navigate their way through the nightmare.
I've just recently discovered John Gottman - he's a relationship expert and has written numerous books on the subject, there are also numerous clips of him lecturing online.
I find him very interesting and helpful in understanding what makes a relationship work and the signs that it's not going to work.
Here is a clip linking to one of his youtube clips.
http://www.restartyourlife.info/?p=703
There are numerous others as I said, I hope they are helpful.
Georgie