Hi, Brotan
I am so impressed by you both! I'd think your prospects of creating a new and happy relationship together are extremely good.
Daily counselling is pretty intense, isn't it? You must feel like you're wearing your insides on the outside! Self-discovery at that pace tends to be highly effective: you probably won't realise just how much you've changed until later. I still amaze myself sometimes, after I've gracefully handled an event that would have 'triggered' the old me - without even noticing that I did so
What your shared journey is doing - both for your husband and for you - is gifting you with a detached perspective on actions & reactions that, previously, may have felt like compulsions. Now, each of you has the benefit of choice. It's quite a blessing - and tremendously empowering.
I'm sure there will still be outbursts from time to time and, depending on where the two of you are in your individual processes, some of the old triggers may still be active. What has changed forever, though, is that you've both now gained deeper insight into what is going on. It will be incredibly interesting. I'm envious!
Whatever form your future relationship takes, this shared journey will be a strong and irreplaceable bond between you. You haven't said whether you plan to continue counselling together (perhaps you don't know yet) but I hope you do, for a while at least.
Together, you're doing something that few couples have the courage to do. By embracing the challenge, you're giving each other - and your selves - depths of love and understanding that most can only wonder at. That might sound over-the-top just now ... but just you wait & see
Good luck! And well done.
love, AG