US:
Me and my husband have been married for a year and a half and he is a very generous and loving man. He works hard and we have a good talking relationship. And we both have our own relationship with Christ (ThankGod)
MY ISSUE:
The way he deals with my complaints about things he does. He will find the smallest amount of the same thing in me and use it in his defence not to change.
MOST RECENT EXAMPLE:
His relationship with women friends.
He is a military servant and he is overseas here in the uk. I am a uk citizen and i dont live far from my home town and family. He maintains close relationships with alot of people online he also finds it very easy to remain friends with females from his school days, his journeys overseas and women he meets at work. He is a person that is very easy to talk to and gives good harsh advice. I would say he has about 5 close female friends and the rest acquaintences.
I recognise that he needs to keep his own contacts so I DO NOT MIND the occasional chat online with females he knows, the occasional conversation with me about them (their issues, his complaints about them, his fond memories) i dont even mind a phone call to one in particular every now and then.
All that being said I DRAW THE LINE at talking to all of them more frequently (more than about 2/3 times a week) and having long conversations with them. Talking to them about our issues or them spilling their complaints and emotions into him. Adding strange females on his social network pages and chatting to them. He used to do this alot. I didnt like it.
We have spoken about it calmly and aggressively. It has settled and came back again. At one point he agreed to cut down, and even let me see conversations that he has had with these females. He would show them to me sometimes and i would trust him enough to not even read them. We were fine i never complained.
THE ATTITUDE:
Then one day he decided to pick out all of the things that I may do with males.
Note: I dont communicate with half as many of the opposite sex, I dont talk to them more than once every couple weeks and I dont add stangers to my social sites.
He decided to pick out all the males I added on my facebook account (he has the same amount of females) and if i EVER speak to any of them online or on the phone (even if if it is my cousins husband).
HIS DECISION:
He decided that I could not ask him any questions about the people he knows, that he wasnt going to tell me anything anymore and now his flips out everytime i mention anything to do with the males I may be in contact with or anytime I mention the females he communicates with.
I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO
It leaves me defending myself, which prevokes an even worse response.
He does this with other things too.