Re: Will my wife love me again
I haven't been through it Rees but it sounds as if she never felt that you loved her although you did. Like a lot of men you hadn't learned to communicate the love you felt for her in a way that she could recognise. Women are complicated to us. Her love has waned because she believed you did not love her.
Love is number one lesson for a man in marriage and a man has to find many ways to express it.
Sometimes knowing her prime love language helps. This can be Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Gifts, Acts of Service or with some Touch (apart from sex)., One of these might be her love language and if that is missing she might not feel loved in that special way even though you love her. I know it takes work but maybe this is an opportunity for you to learn a little bit more about that subject? Of course we should love all round but we should also find out their individual perceptions of experiencing love in a special way. With my wife it is touch. Without that it is hard for her to feel loved in a special way.
I hope it is not too late but you need to find some way of expressing love to her, not particularly as a one off just to get her back. She needs some proof of a change as she has got discouraged it seems and doesn't believe your words when you say you can change. Opportunities will come which you need to use when they arise. Put any wrong fear away as that will only hinder things and can be interpreted as just selfishness. Try and be sensitive and outgoing when you need to be. Also honour her in front of others as opposed to letting her think you are ashamed of her.
|