Confused for the sake of kids
Hello,
let me just summarize the relationship:
1. Married since 3 years
2. Never see eye to eye on any issue which leads to many fights.
3. My wife suffers from temper issue which are really dangerous at times
4. We Fight every time i go out to meet my friends. (she basically does not like any of my friends or relatives). She also has serious social phobia (but absolutely not willing to accept, cannot even bring up the subject)
5. Tried to counsel her a lot of times but it always ended up in more fights.
6. Relationship improved for a while in late 2nd year. Hoping a better future we had twin girls, now age 8 months)
7. The problems have started to flare up suddenly again.
8. She goes to extreme lengths in fights (i have thought of calling either police or ambulance a couple of times, but didnt as it would hurt her even more).
9. I would have left the relationship many months ago, but I am still here for the kids sake.
10. Dont have any friends left as she wont let me meet any. Parent absolutely annoyed and dont interfere much (they dont even talk to me now)
11. I am thoroughly confused as to what to do. If i try for divorce, the laws will always favour wife (she will get custody) and my kids will land up with that psycho (they will be scarred for life)
12. If I dont, they still get scarred by continuous fights but at least they will see the sane person too.
13. If I start the proceedings of divorce, she will make sure i will never see my kids again.
She knows i am just hanging in there for the sake of kids. This is really a psychological abuse. Very scared, depressed, and confused. PLease advice a way out.
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