Confused
My husband and I have been married one year...and needless to say, it's been tough.
I cherish family, and I have always wanted a family of my own - kids, that is. I married him under the impression that he wanted children too (because we had several discussions about wanting kids, how many kids, etc.) - and no! this was not a deciding factor. But, come to find out, no, he really doesn't want kids, and it hurt hearing that. I think what hurt the most was the fact I felt deceived.
Most recently, my husband accused me of not being "authentic", not really having an interest in anything, and for "ruining his weekend". I've tried to explain that because I don't show enthusiasm the same way that he does, doesn't mean I'm not "authentic" or that I don't have any interests - which, I most definitely do. Really, this all comes down to me feeling and thinking that he wants me to be more like him. I give and give and give, and then he gets upset the one time I take.
I know there are details I left out, but I'd really like to know how to move forward. I'm hurt, and I've been hurt for a while. I'd just like to hear some suggestions or similar experiences.
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