At last.....!

After a very long 18 months of being under investigation by the police for a "crime" committed against my ex the case has been thrown out by the legal system!!

I won't bore everyone with the details but those who 'know' me here will know the full story!

It has been a real struggle to cope with the pressure of being a suspect for so long and cannot describe how relieved I am!

Some interesting things have come to light over the last few months. After reviewing the case with my lawyer it was discovered that my ex was ALSO a suspect in a crime. This was made by the police, not by me, following an initial review of the case by a judge who summised that the complaint had ONLY been made because of the custody case that I had put into court weeks before the complaint being made.

I can breathe again and it is a fantastic feeling!

[Helen_uk]

Oh Congrats Arcos. That must be a huge relief. Let's hope there is no more game playing from your ex now and you can be allowed to settle and give your kids the time they deserve with you.

[chosen]

brilliant news and what a relief for you.

Thanks for your messages!

It is an incredible relief and I am still trying to come to terms with the outcome.

I too hope that now things will settle and everyone can move on!

There are still plenty of silly games being played but with each process coming to a close there is less and less possibility of stupid games. This, inspite of the ex trying to say that she has more rights and can break the custody judgment at a moments notice!

The only remaining issue is that neither my ex nor her lawyer will respond to any questions regarding the divorce. This is the last hurdle that is blocking everything and I cannot understand why. It means that it will have to go into the court system, cost a fortune and take forever!!

Oh well..

[Helen_uk]

I guess that's her final stab at controlling you arcos . Once the divorce is done she will only be able to have any control over you via the children and I really hope that doesn't happen.

If she needs to play games then she obviously hasn't moved on , she sounds vindictive.

You are right... Her only control once the divorce is done is the children and, well that has been happening already and I am sure it will continue.

Friends and family of BOTH of us have commented on her use of the children from day 1 and she still continues.

Vindictive? That simply does not come close to describe her behaviour. She has not moved on, it's that simple. She does now have yet another man in her life who is fueling the spite and vindictiveness toward me through aggression, threats and attempts to damage my little business, my only income that enables to me to support the children!

It just never ends.....

[JWD]

Oh she sounds horrid!! people like that always get what they deserve in life. Well done you for fighting it and winning.

[chosen]

Anyone who uses their own children as pawns and weapons in the fight against their ex or soon to be ex, is despicable in my view.They are wanting the hurt the spouse but deeply hurting the children in the process. This just makes me SOOO mad. Its SOOO selfish.

Arcos you just acting with integrity and dignity and the children will respect you for that in the future.

Thanks for everyone's support and comments!

It just doesn't stop......

Following a tirade of verbal, aggressive abuse from my ex 'other half' IN FRONT OF THE CHILDREN a couple of weeks ago... That I simply walked away from I now receive an email from my ex/other half.

It appears that I am being followed/stalked by them, listing every town and village where I have been this past weekend and who I have been with. Oh and I should clarify that I didn't have the children this weekend!!!

I have been told that I am "ruining the childrens lives".

I am told that I am "subversive" "Name Calling" Threatening" "Disgusting" blah blah blah blah blah.

And then....

I am asked... "Name your price"

Here is the exact line taken from her email...

"Exactly how much money do you require for me to pay you off and get out off out of me and the childrens lives which you are quite clearly ruining"

Is it me, or is that the most disgusting thing I have ever heard?

The last email has really hit just about rock bottom and I have sent it straight to my lawyer as, over recent months I have asked that no more direct contact be made other than for the children in an emergency!

It's just plain harassment!