Re: Wife keeping a secret....
People are living their busy life with jobs, daily errands, and etc. and are not paying attention to their relationships. Although, one day they suddenly discover that they have lived life in complete different way they dreamed and really wanted or something happened in their life, which influenced on such view. Internet is a great source of all help, info, and advices. People are able to say things, which they kept just for themselves or even were afraid to admit their dreams and desires.
I think problem lays much deeper in relationships with your wife. The revision of relationships and possible prediction of problems from your sides might help you to find solution and ways to get her to you, include you in her real world, a person who is around, and ready to be with her. This is what I assume she is doing. Asking and speaking with both males and females. She gets opinions, support, and opposite views. People are not wiling to go to counselor due to different reasons, but when they see that helped someone - they start consider this service.
The other thing is that your wife probably prefers to speak to people who do not know her and in same time, she protects you and herself from gossiping. Other people like to spread “news” and give sometime advices, which will not be a help for you or her or your children, if they are present.
I think, she in the process of finding and discovering herself again. If your marriage is not dissolved yet, find patience and look over all issues you think might involved and got her in depression. I always start from myself and than I look for spouse side. Just be true to yourself and keep trying to reach agreement and understanding through patience and diplomacy. People can easy can hurt each one; instead, we need to hear us and them to find a solution. “Love is patient and kind, it is not jealous, conceited, or proud, love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable, love does not keep records of wrongs, love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth. Love never gives up, love is eternal”.
I wish you luck and courage.
Last edited by angewink; 16th October 2005 at 02:34 PM.
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