Re: Confused
Dear Mikey
I realize that the rules may not be very clear to you.
You are married now and that means working co-operatively as a partnership. It is not possible to do things spontaneously as you did previously because that does not take in to account what the other person may need to do.
You can be spontaneous when you are not married because there is no-one else to consider. This is very nice, but it does mean you are more alone.
Sometimes people do not properly explain what they need you to do and can be very angry if you cannot anticipate what they want. Explain that you do not know what you have to do and say that it would help you to know this, and you will learn to do it.
Some wives become very angry because they are good at knowing what their husbands want, but their husbands are not good at figuring out what the wife wants. It is best to ask if you are not sure.
Please do not fall asleep on the floor. If you are too tired to begin to make dinner, please put a note on the table explaining you are tired and then go up to bed. This is not completely rational, but it annoys women more when men fall asleep on the floor. I don't know why this is. If you go to bed, she will be less annoyed.
Please note: both of you are making big adjustments. Your wife has decided to share her space with you and that is a very big adjustment.
I don't know if you have felt this way before, but if you sometimes have trouble communicating with people, especially if you are a computer programmer, there are some communication programmes which can help you learn to do this better. Please post again if you would like help finding some programmes.
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