Re: My husband had an affair and got another woman pregnant?
I am on the tails of a similar situation right now. I have done some investigating as it pertains to my now ex because I noticed alot of lying, word twisting and blaming behavior. When I read this it was like his job description.
WOMEN MAKE SURE YOU PAY CLOSE ATTENTION TO THESE RED FLAGS, PLEASE SHARE OTHER WOMEN IN SIMILAR SITUATIONS AND INVESTIGATE THIS PERSONALITY DISORDER.
THIS HELPS YOU TO HEAL AND TAKE THE BLAME OFF OF YOURSELF.
CHARACTERISTICS of the NARCISSIST and others with Personality Disorders
1. Self-centered. Their needs are paramount.
2. No remorse for mistakes or misdeeds.
3 Unreliable, undependable.
4. Do not care about the consequences of their actions.
5. Projects their faults on to others. High
blaming behavior; never their fault.
6. Little if any conscience.
7. Insensitive to needs and feelings of others.
8. Has a good front (persona) to impress and exploit others.
9. Low stress tolerance. Easy to anger and rage.
10. People are to be manipulated for their needs.
11. Rationalizes easily. Twists conversation to their gain at other’s expense. If trapped, keeps talking, changes the subject or gets angry.
12. Pathological lying.
13. Tremendous need to control situations, conversations, others.
14. No real values. Mostly situational.
15. Often perceived as caring and understanding and uses this to manipulate.
16. Angry, mercurial, moods.
17. Uses sex to control
18. Does not share ideas, feelings, emotions.
19. Conversation controller. Must have the first and last word.
20. Is very slow to forgive others. Hangs onto resentment.
21. Secret life. Hides money, friends, activities.
22. Likes annoying others. Likes to create chaos and disrupt for no reason.
23. Moody - switches from nice guy to anger without much provocation.
24. Repeatedly fails to honor financial obligations.
25. Seldom expresses appreciation.
26. Grandiose. Convinced he knows more than others and is correct in all he does.
27. Lack ability to see how they come across to others. Defensive when confronted with their behavior.
28. Can get emotional, tearful. This is about show or frustration rather than sorrow.
29. In a relationship he/she breaks the other's spirit to keep them dependent.
30. Needs threats, intimidations to keep others close to them.
31. Sabotages partner. Wants their partner to be happy only through them and to have few or no outside interests and acquaintances.
32. Highly contradictory.
33. Convincing. Must convince people to side with them.
34. Hides their real self. Always “on” .
35. Kind only if they're getting from you what they want.
36. They have to be right. Have to win. Have to look good.
37. They announce, not discuss. They tell, not ask.
38. Does not discuss openly, has a hidden agenda.
39. Controls money of others but spends freely on themselves.
40. Unilateral condition of, "I'm OK and justified so I don't need to hear your position or ideas"
41. Always feels misunderstood.
42. You feel miserable with these people. They drain you.
43. Do not listen because they don't care.
44. Their feelings are discussed, not the partners.
45. Is not interested in problem-solving.
46. Very good at reading people, so they can manipulate them.
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