Thanks for the response Chamomile
I do try to explain that i am tired and exhausted and there is nothing really much deeper than this going on.
When i say this though she over-reacts and says well maybe it's better that we dont spend any time together or maybe if she makes me so tired then should i be with her which is not very understanding i think.
To be honest, she lists everything! If it needs to be done at some point it will be raised.
The other thing is that she is overly-critical of things that i do which makes me nervous about doing things because it's like having a manager look over your shoulder every second, being micro-managed. I think you could also say that she is quite bossy.
There are good points as well just in case you thought i was looking at it all one way.
I have spoken to her this morning and after last night she is now saying that she doesnt have the enthusiasm she did yesterday and doesnt know if she wants to spend the next few days with me! So, now she is saying that she doesnt know if she wants to spend xmas with me - the only few days i have had off this year.
The sad thing is that i could take it or leave it because i just dont have the energy to fight