Wife needs " Me time"
where do I begin,I have been with my wife for 6 years married for 2, we have had some good times and some bad times, I love this woman and she is my life, she moved here for me from a small town up north after we met on the internet"not on a dating site just a chat room" she flew to meet me being 8 hours away, we fell in love and continued to see eachother when we could, we decided to go for it and she moved her, she has 2 kids from another relationship not a marrige. We were totaly happy and I loved her, and so did my family so I asked her to marry me, We have had up and downs, I got sick with panic attatcks and went on medication, she was loving and there for me, and then my father passed away just before we got married,and was very supportive. I did not work for sometime after my dad passed and had troubles getting modivated and was deppressed, as anyone would imagine its hard to be a step father to 2 kids that arnt yours, having to constinly creat boundries of dicipline and meeting in the middle, we have fought about that, as I say she always baby's them, and to try harder to creat structure in their lives ie. cleaning,respect for their things. in the recent year I tried to start my own business and get that going and she was very supportive at first but decided that I needed to work in orer to stay afloat. She has also complained that I havnt been spending and doing "quality things withe family" and spending to much time with my buddies. I know I should spend more time with the family, but I explained I needed her to be happier and more modivated and show me more love, We because of me not working was asked to leave our present rental unit and now we have to move, plus we have recentlyben told our daughter has ADHD and needs special attention. She has also been going through hormonal imbalances as she is getting sometime 2 week periods as a result of a recent tubal reversal surger we got a few months ago. We have been fighting and not seeing eye to eye lately and she told me she wanted to try and make things better, Money problems, family kids, moving, US have pushed her to a breaking point and yesterday she told me she wanted some "me time" to figure out who she is and why she cant be happpy, I dont want to lose my wife but I am devistated, she says she still loves me, but doesnt know how much and feels that she is "empty" and doesnt want to fight anymore and just wantes to move and doesnt know what she wants with anything not just with me" I respectfully left the house, and have been staying away, but I want to help her... is she just stressd? our has had enough of the marrige, she says she doesnt know..... an suggestions??
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