Hi, I'm new to this site, have been happily married for 6 years and have two small fantastic children. We have a great life, live in a beautiful place, have good jobs - in short more than we ever thought we'd have - no need for complaint. However, my husband has always enjoyed a smoke, but over the last few months it's got a lot heavier - he's an addict and I'm reaching a point where I don't trust him with the kids - he'll happily drive. Added to that, two things have happened over the past few weeks, 1) I discovered he'd been looking at 'no strings attached sex sites (2 of them) along with porn. I'm not prudish and the porn thing didn't worry me too much - he's a technophobe and rarely usually the computer but the dating sites really upset me - his reaction was one of anger when i asked him about it - more a 'been caught out anger' than I'm really sorry I came across them by accident reaction . And 2) We had a rare evening out, had a great time - I settled the baby while he went outside, when I went to join him he was texting on his phone and pleasuring himself. The two together have really disturbed me. He's becoming a jekyl and hyde character and i don't know what's next. I've always believed we had a strong and happy marriage but am beginning to question this, as well as not trust him. When I mentioned about his antics outside he denied it - lied to my face, and when i said that i knew what i'd seen he came up with some silly excuse. I guess i just want to know if i'm being paranoid.