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Old 11th July 2004, 08:44 PM   #1
samwilkins321@aol.com
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Unhappy No Friends In The World

Hello: well, I am 26 year old Male near South London and feeling lonely at present, it all began a long time back when i was at school when i was going through my GCSE'S my sister sadly passed away she was 12 years old 2 years younger than me and died of a brain tumour this was an extreemley difficult time as I was not only dealing with the death of my sister but my GCSE Examinations.

I was now 16 about to move into the 6 form and my parents split up and my dad did not wish to know me - despite all this going on i had very good mates around me and i mean good they would call me to see if i was ok and invite me to the pub and to footie matches, we would go down to the Palace games and have a good laugh.

I did two years in the 6 form but did not get the grades i wanted to be able to go to university but managed to gain a HND in Business but most of my old mates moved on and went to University or work and I did not see them again.

I met some other mates from my college job at SAFEWAY and hung about with them and met a good female mate but the group moved away and I don't see them anymore and lost contact.

Although I have one mate who i have known since middle school who has and is my best mate, and also another 2 mates who occasionally talk to me and invite me out so i am not completely on my own.

About a year ago I was so pleased to hear about Friends Reunited and started to email old names from school to see what they are up to a couple of people replied "HELLO SAMMY, GOOD TO HEAR FROM YOU I AM DOING XYZ AND WISH YOU ALL THE BEST" they had there own life and jobs and did not wish to know me anymore they have moved on.

I was not that upset but would have liked to have met up with them again. I was not completely on my own as i lived at home with Mum and Step Dad and brother.

This Feb Mum and step Dad moved away not too far but far enough - I moved in on my own to a small 1 bed cottage which is nice and comfortable place but moving in on my own was not bad at first because i was out all day working in an office for Transport for London in Victoria.

I was meeting people all day, socialising with them and fairly happy although going back to an empty place each night was horrid but i had plans of that changing!

May this year I lost my job within the organization as part of it moved location and I had been late 4 times in a row once because of a train strike, another time because a body was found on track instances which were not my fault. I was very upset because i like the job and was doing well.

In June I had to have an 2 abscess removed off my back and currently having treatment.

So at the min I am living on my own, having treatment each day, feeling lonely and wish i could change my life but have no direction and no job.

Hopefully i will get the job i am going for on Thurs as this will bring money into my pocket and enable me to get out and about and purchase a car.

I need ways of how i can move forward gain more friends get out and about - people say it will happen but I have to make it happen.

I might join social clubs but don't know any where people my age go to meet people and have a laugh.

I hate my life at present and know it could be much better, I miss my old mates but they have moved on - I need to meet a companion someone i can share the good and bad times with - once i have got a job i hope to be able to do more, be able to go out to social clubs and meet other people.

Its so quiet in the house i am living - no noise, no one to say good morning to or good night, just me sitting on my own night after night.

I use to have quiet a good life and enjoying myself looking forward to the weekend or to a night out now i feel lonely, scared and need help in changing this.

ANYONE GOT ANY IDEAS OR SIMILAR STORIES LET ME KNOW

SAMUEL 26 YEAR OLD MALE TRYING TO SORT HIS LIFE OUT mail me samwilkins321@aol.com anytime and please pray for me i am going through a tough time at present
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Old 13th July 2004, 08:36 AM   #2
Kate
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Re: No Friends In The World

Dear Samuel

Do you have any hobbies or interests where you can get out and spend time with other people? You've asked for prayer - do you go to church? That's a good place to make friends and get involved in things that are going on. How about doing some voluntary work?

Anyway I hope the job works out.

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Old 28th July 2004, 10:56 PM   #3
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Re: No Friends In The World

Hey Sam,
I was in a similar situation. Divorced, in the military, posted 450 miles away from my kids and friends of 7 years. Met a new partner, had a child, bought a house, time up in the military - partner kicks me out saying I'm not earning enough money. Felt miserable, really miserable. Same thing for me... turned to workaholic because I had company.

Reason for this post, what turned my life into something a little more bearable....... House share. I now have someone around in the evening. I too am finding it hard to meet new people and I am thinking of joining some groups too (Ramblers or something similar) But the house share helps a lot.

Hope this helps, and hope things turn around quickly for you.

p_costigan@hotmail.com
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