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Old 4th August 2013, 02:51 PM   #1
topclick
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Me & My Wife Want Different Things

I'm sorry if it sounds like i'm pouring my heart out but I need some advice before I start going made.

I'm married with 1 step daughter and 1 infant son who I love very much. Me and my wife have been married for nearly two years but a huge crack has started to show.

She wants another baby but I'm happy with my son and step daughter. I'm the main bread winner and have provided for the past 4 years and there has not been one day where I have not struggled to make ends meet.

My problem is I always say YES and put other people feelings first and end up suffering myself. My wife also wants a new house but I simply can't afford it right now. I work 7 days a week and earn good money but the expense of living is too much especially when you can't say no.

There is so much I want to do in life but my wife is happy to sit in doors and do nothing, no adventures nothing.

I've sacrificed a lot for this marriage including moving miles away from all my family and friends. I see my family if i'm lucky once a month whilst my wife sees her family everyday. I have lost my social life as my friends do not invite me to things anymore. If I ever want to go out or visit my family I have to be back at a certain time and explain why I need to see them. I'm a 27 year old man and it breaks my heart to abandon my family and friends all because I want to keep my wife happy.

I've always viewed life as a 1 time opportunity so make the most of it. For the past few years I have not apart from bring up to wonderful children of whom I love more than anything else in this world. It breaks me to say this but my wife no longer makes me happy and I just feel like i'm living a complete lie is a prison like atmosphere.

I was diagnosed with depression last year, I told my wife it was due to my biological father leaving me but it was her and the pressure she puts me under.

For the first time in our married life I said NO to having another child and she burst into tears and told me I was very selfish. It broke my heart to see her cry but it also made me realise that she assumed that I want everything she wants which is simply not true.

Not that I have discussed this with my wife but I'm seriously considering a divorce as I'm no longer happy and know I can't give her what she wants. However I do not want this to effect the children and would also put them first before me and my feelings.

A lot of waffle but any advice would be greatly appreciated

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