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Old 11th December 2013, 07:02 PM   #31
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Was this meant for me or the original poster?
Of course, it was meant for you as well, my friend. It was meant for the original poster as well.
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Old 11th December 2013, 07:03 PM   #32
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Thank you for your clarification, Chosen.
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Old 12th December 2013, 02:08 PM   #33
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Why two, Not three

Marriage is an exclusive club. Marriage is a two-person arrangement, leaving out all other parties. That is why wedding vows often include the phrase "forsaking all others." Marriage is meant to be a safe place for one's soul; third parties can become disruptive to this safety.

Cloud & Townsend - Boundaries in Marriage
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Old 23rd December 2013, 03:43 PM   #34
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Thank you all for your posts. We live in a very over-sexed society and here in the U.S. everyone is naked, sex driven, etc......

We will not delve into a threesome as I only want my husband. I just wish he acted like he wanted me as much. I refuse to talk about our lack of sex again, as it gets nowhere. All I can do is pray that it will change.
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Old 23rd December 2013, 05:16 PM   #35
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Thank you all for your posts. We live in a very over-sexed society and here in the U.S. everyone is naked, sex driven, etc......

We will not delve into a threesome as I only want my husband. I just wish he acted like he wanted me as much. I refuse to talk about our lack of sex again, as it gets nowhere. All I can do is pray that it will change.
Yes we do, but that doesn't mean we have to be like that ourselves. I hepe that things will improve for you, and I honestly believe that if he stopped the porn, it would.
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Old 23rd December 2013, 06:49 PM   #36
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I don't believe one can be oversexed within marriage. I think sex driven means going over the boundaries, watching porn, lusting after others etc. That is an empty thing compared to the intimacy of marriage and touching those things will have it's detrimental affect on the marriage.

I agree with Chosen. If he restricted his sexual drive to his marriage things could change. Fantasising and lusting after others, threesomes etc. is like spreading your fountain in the streets when it should be just for you and him alone.
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Old 23rd December 2013, 06:49 PM   #37
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Hi

I think it's pretty horrid.

He knows you have high sex drive. He won't be interested: translation - "Why don't you go and get it. I don't care." I think it's a neglect.
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Old 23rd December 2013, 10:52 PM   #38
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Neglect caused by a diversion of his sex drive?
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Old 24th December 2013, 11:02 AM   #39
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Neglect caused by a diversion of his sex drive?
Most probably. But that is his choice. I have got a feeling that there's a bigger problem in this marriage after reading the helpful observations made by other posters.
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Old 26th December 2013, 11:10 AM   #40
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Yes you are right. Diversion of the sex drive is a symptom of something else in this case. Maybe a lack of appreciation of what marriage actually is?
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Old 17th March 2014, 08:29 PM   #41
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Well, to reiterate, he has low testoterone which pretty much kills the whole production, especially when it comes to sex. He is worried about him not being able to perform, finish the job, etc. I assured him that I dont see him as less of a man, if that were to happen. I am just delighted that we connected period.

I have had to put aside my feelings of being neglected sexually and have often thought of him as selfish for not taking care of my needs and wants. Things are picking up, slowly. But I continue to try and have patience. I cannot imagine whats it like to be a man, not even fourty and have these issues.
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Old 17th March 2014, 08:31 PM   #42
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A male friend of mine told me that despite men ever owning up to this fact.....a man's penis IS connected to his emotions and if the man's in emotional turmoil, his penis doesnt work the way he would want it to. Interesting......
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Old 17th March 2014, 08:35 PM   #43
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Well, to reiterate, he has low testoterone which pretty much kills the whole production, especially when it comes to sex. He is worried about him not being able to perform, finish the job, etc. I assured him that I dont see him as less of a man, if that were to happen. I am just delighted that we connected period.

I have had to put aside my feelings of being neglected sexually and have often thought of him as selfish for not taking care of my needs and wants. Things are picking up, slowly. But I continue to try and have patience. I cannot imagine whats it like to be a man, not even fourty and have these issues.
He can have testosterone patches if that is the case, and they will raise his levels.
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Old 17th March 2014, 08:38 PM   #44
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He takes a cream called Testim and his doctor prescribed him Cialis and some other medication but he says it isnt working for him.
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Old 17th March 2014, 09:46 PM   #45
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Libra Lady....

If a man I dated told me he ever had a threesome in sex in his past...I would be history, and gone...very fast. I don't believe in that kind of "experimentation" under any circumstance. I'd figure he needed an "edge" in his sexuality. I believe in one man, and one woman, so let us say I am rigid in what I feel is a moral pathway in a marriage or a relationship.

Your man may not be able to perform as he doesn't get his "high" from normal sex. When porn, hardcore acts, or the idea/fantasy of others in his head dilutes the sexuality, he can't get it up. He figured you would accept the idea of others in your bedroom as you told him you tried that. I agree with other posters that his tastes run to the bizarre from past threesomes with the ex-wife. Your common sense may have warned you there and you ignored that. If the basic morality and fidelity is missing that doesn't look good for your future. I hate to say this as it sounds harsh, but I would have no children with this man until there are huge changes in attitude and understanding of the marital vows.

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