Huting no worries hun, we are all human beings deep down we all want the same things, to love and be loved in return, to exist as a unified partnership of the deepest levels; not to worry your H may turn around once he realizes just what he maybe giving up. The thing you need to do is less focus on him, nore focus on you, enpower and strengthen yourself. it is hard to do but trust me it is neccessary for your own peace of mind and sanity. Don't playback all the negative stuff as that will only attract more negative, instead focus on the positives and good memories, allow yourself to change your inner attitude and let that reflect outward into your world, it may wake him up at the same time but be consistant and don't stop once things get better.
j92cool, thanks for the encouragement, it sucks but hey I am stronger then before, better then before, and more aware fo the bigger picture down the road. yes I deserve better and I will find someone better who is the right fit and who will enrich my life and maybe my kids lives too. Not in a rush mind you, I want to take my time here lol maybe dialabride...
j/k...
Raymond,
Not sure what you meant by cover my tracks... I am not one to hide my plans or keep things secret from my Wife, in fact I tell her exactly what I plan on doing and how I am going to do it. she is the deceptive one remember? I told her exactly what my plans are and what is acceptable for me to grant her living here and me move out, I know her tall too well she gives up on herself way too easily and will not put any real effort if any to make herself earn more $$$$ to support the home and kids, unfortunately she lacks the will and disipline. I may sound pretty hard but after 16 years of supporting the family I feel I earned the right to state my thoughts to her in the manner i had.
In short I gave her choices that I felt would be the easiest ones as well as the hardest ones so she could gauge for herself which course of action she needs to take. I know she has been talking with a feminest lawyer who has a hate on all men and she is getting her head filled with garbage from her cheating 50 year old boss at work, not to mention her friend Mark whom she stayed with while we seperated earlier this year. The guy is an alcolohic, who is known to take advantage of his staff including my wife who is too ignorant to see it. oh well she made her choices as poor as they are.
Example as soon as she came home she went straight to the bar to meet him and her 20 something friends who have no clue on her life as a mom and wife. I hope she picks someone up and goes to his place, I don't want her here. This weekend she's staying at a girlfriends house who has offered a spare room in the basement I hope she takes it, her frind drinks and smokes pot. I have nothing against her she's a very cool woman with 2 kids and her hubby place bass in a famous punk rock band. However, her friend works hard and I hope that will rub off on my soon-to-be-ex-wife.
Glad you understand my poem now, it describes me to a perfect "T".