My husband of 14 years has finally walked out!?

[Johnee S]

There are a disconnect bigtime and loss of attraction, may it be his not feeling accepted or empowered in your relationship. He feels completely over whelmed and helpless to the debt issues. There is most likely other factors in the equation you may have not mentioned or perhaps over looking. Seperate yourself from the patterns of break down, get yourself out of the pity me rut, I've been there myself and I can relate to the pain. Pain will always be there until you decide to not grant it power over you. Life is about choices we make in how we carry them out. All you can do at this point is give him space, and focus on you and your kids.

It will hurt and it will not be easy at first but each day that goes by you get a piece of yourself back little by little; you need to rebuild your confidence and self image (what you perceive yourself as as well as what how you think others perceive you). Shatter and destroy the negatives in your life and reinforce them with positives.

It may sound rediculous but you have nothing to loose and all to gain for yourself. Not doing so will only keep you in limbo of where you are here and now.