Re: Marriage Help
Dear Nina...
Welcome to the forum. I am sorry you have such problems going on with your husband who you said is in the miliatry. I was a military wife for years. If your husband is US miltary there are regulations that protect a spouse and dependents.
You should notify his commanding officer of these problems, the chaplains' office or Legal Aid Society on base. Legal aid can give you advise, but they do not represent litigants in a legal dispute. An enlisted man has to support his family and there is assistance on these issues with these sources. You need to notify your bank that you did not sign the withdrawal slips for any funds. Inform them this was done without your permission. Forgery is a crime.
If the house is in joint names, and if he wanted to give someone permission to gain entry for his parents to stay, there he can do that since his name is on the lease or deed. That is not illegal, though it was inconsiderate, since he did so without your permission. If I were in your place I would now work to make his parents welcome, assist them to settle, and smooth this out. They are not responsible for problems between you. You would expect him to assist your family, so why not help them? There is counselling through military services free for service members families.
He steam rollers over you and that is something that needs to be worked out in counselling. Leaving you without funds is another thing though, and he can be sanctioned by his military command once you contact his CO. He can even be tossed out of the military (no job) by such actions, as the military is very strict about helping dependents.
Last edited by 1aokgal; 10th September 2012 at 01:49 AM.
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