Re: Can't get any worse!
Thanks everyone for your kind words and advice,
I have sought advice from a local solicitor regarding my current situation and i'm afraid it wasn't what i wanted to hear, anyway they have advised me not to do anything yet as they believe it is still early days regarding legal separation ect, we had been together for 28 years married for 18, so i think based on this 3.5 months is not a long time, i think maybe after 6 months i need to sit down and seriously evaluate what i'm going to do.
I have a theory that my W has experianced some soughtof breakdown which has resulted in thie current situation, the problem is is that it will get to a point where i will no longer be interested in any reconcilliation.
I did ask her the last time i spoke to her was there anyone else, she denied this, my son has also asked her the same question, again he got the same answer, so confusing as to what to think.I do not at the moment have any contact with her although i have her mobile no, but i'm reluctant to call, it upsets me just to talk to her, after all she left me why should i be the one to chase and beg for her to come back, hopefully by not contacting her she may one day decide to contact me, i hope so! it will prove that she is at least thinking of me.
Kathryn, yes i agree with you it was completely devastating to watch her just leave, no reason no argument, when we did speak a couple of weeks later she was very quick to tell me how happy she was! i told her that i wish she was just as quick to tell me that she was having a problem that eventually led to her leaving.
At the moment i'm looking at what plans i can make for the future, financially i'll be ok for a couple of months and i have got really good support from my brother who has been a good sounding board, my parent although now getting on do offer support but i feel guilty with bothering them because of their age.
I know that at sometime in the near future i will have to make a decision regarding the house, but for now i'm trying to deal with one problem at a time, otherwise i think i'll lose it, first priority is to try and secure new employment, not easy in today climate, but hey got to keep trying.
I look at it this way, i'm on a journey i don't want to be on, i'm scared of what the future holds, but also excited as to what i'll find on the way, as i said i do have good days but these are outweighed by the dark days, hopefully this will turn around soon.
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