Re: Struggling with communication
Hi New Bride, sorry to hear you are having problems already, but it isn't unusual. Could be expectations. Both of you would have had your own expectations of what marriage should be about. Sometimes because we had certain ideas about it but the reality didn't measure up to what we expected we can be disappointed. These can be normal teething troubles. The thing is not to give up but work things through and remain committed to each other. Perhaps talking about this with him would help.
Another thing could be a love language thing. There are five basic love languages apparently which are Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Gifts (needn't be expensive just the thought counts) Touch (holding hands, hugs etc. not to do with sex although that is important) and Quality Time. Apparently we all have a primary love language and tend to speak that to the other. Trouble is they may not perceive it as love as their prime language may be different. You have to speak their language to convey love. My wife's happened to be touch and in the early days she got hardly none of that, only sex, and she didn't feel loved even though I loved her. Having learned that I make sure she feels loved through that especially, plus everything else.
These are only a few thoughts. There is a book called The Five Languages of Love by Gary Chapman a christian writer that you might find helpful or not.
I really hope that you both grow together through these things and find the way forward.
Raymond
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