Re: Living in a Sexless Marriage.....
RAYMOND : Thanks a lot for your piece of advice & understanding my situation. I dont know much about eunuch & whether if that is his problem will he ever open up & tell that to me ? I dont think so.
He has always stuck to one version from the beginning is that he is perfectly normal & that we should make things work..
Sexual desires....hummm ...I just cant judge that. At times I feel he' just putting things up,well my mindset at the moment is not such that I am in a position to coach him up.I know I should not give up something so easily what God has united in his Love but somehow I dont even think i can smooch him. The heart is all in doubts & fear to trust him.He is trying his best these days, hugging,kissing,coming closer but I am just not in it. Its only when my mind is clear with regards to him, I can proceed & make this marriage work.
I did speak to our Parish priest finally, he didnt say much (which i completely understand until he hears from the other side), but yes, he agreed to the fact that if we both could meet a 3rd person like an counsellor & try to understand each other in the light of 3rd person & why have things taken such a bad shape then I would be in a clear position to make a decision.
May be I can understand his mindset or what made him behave such or what went wrong between the both of us from a 3rd person's point a view which may be am not able to understand from my husband. Also, if I choose to part our ways I would be convinced that I didnt take any irrational decision. At least things would be clear for anyway that we conclude.
The priest has referred me to a Marriage Counsellor & I am in the process of fixing an appointment for next week.
In the meanwhile, I ask for your prayers & Gods wisdom & grace on both of us so that we be honest in all that we are doing & the Holy Spirit to guide us in his light.
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