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Old 13th September 2008, 07:43 PM   #1
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Proposal worries

Hi guys,

New here, and haven't given my real name on my profile because I am quite scared of being found out!

I had been looking to get a ring next year, but as my girlfriend is Welsh I have managed to procure one of the final 50 rings ever to be made out of pure Welsh gold. I had to act now for fear of missing out!

So, I have sourced the diamonds for the ring... I had sat down with my Jeweller and gone through the design... The gold will be hallmark and the diamond certified... Basically it is going to be the perfect ring!!!

The 'problem' is it will be finished in about two weeks!!!

I hadn't planned on proposing this soon... but I have some ideas which I thought I'd run past the you guys here?

1) The first day we started going out is in October... and I was thinking I could surprise her at work, propose, and whisk her away to a romantic long weekend?

2) I am hoping to move job, and therefore move in with her in about a month and was thinking I could propose to her on our first evening in our new home, with candles, a bottle of bubbly, a personal meal and a romantic huggy film.

3) My original plan was to take her to New York as a Valentines present and propose at the top of the Rockafella center, then take her to a meal, then a Broadway show, then back for a night at the Ritz.

I would LOVE to do the third one, but I am so scared that the ring will burn a hole in my pocket... and I feel she might be expecting it then... but does that matter? Is it the occasion, not the surprise?

Number two is simple, and is relevant to my girlfriends personality... she doesn't want a big public display of affection... but is it memorable enough? and what if moving in takes too long or gets stressful?

The first one is doable... I can get her out of work and can organise the weekend... but if it was in front of her work colleagues she could get embarrassed.

You HAVE to help me!!!

Any advice or questions welcomed!!!

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Old 14th September 2008, 07:20 PM   #2
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Re: Proposal worries

Yes, WHY are you moving in with her? Order of business is usually..
1. Meet, fall in love
2. Proposal
3. The wedding
4. She moves in with YOU or preferably you get a NEW place together that you never shared with another before her.

That's how we did it 28 years ago. Am I missing something? Why don't you select a place together AFTER the wedding? The living together is after the first 3. Statistics show that those who live together the largest not marry. Familiarity breeds comtempt ..they say. In marrige is comfortable and nice.

So, OK she does not put the cap back on the toothpaste...big deal. Rethink your order of business, perhaps?

Answer...NO, to proposal in front of others. This is not a show is a private, hopefully memorable moment. Maybe she says, NO. That would be a Kodak moment in front of others. Propose privately, simply, cheaply and sweetly.

Last edited by 1aokgal; 14th September 2008 at 07:25 PM.
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Old 14th September 2008, 07:29 PM   #3
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Re: Proposal worries

We lived together for 3 years at university. My job pulled me away to another part of the country, but I have finally managed to get transfered back.

We love each others company and are already completely comfortable with each other.

But thanks for you advice on the proposal, that was really helpful!

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Old 15th September 2008, 08:24 AM   #4
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Re: Proposal worries

Good luck...and keep it simple and heartfelt. Present a wonderful small book of love poems and with it the ring in ring box with the book.
Romantic and touching.
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