Re: 31 Years down the drain
cas
The boundaries that you set him for coming back sound good and wise, but as Raymond says, he doesnt seem to even want to stop seeing this lady or end their relationship.If at some point he wants to come back to you, then there will need to be strict conditions set, but he seems to have made his mind up.
If he had done what you asked at the beginning, then it may not have got this serious, but he CHOOSE to sin and so cheat and lie and decieve you.This is why boundaries with members of the opposite sex are so important, especially in the workplace where many affairs seem to start.
Him coming round every day is a mixed blessing for you, as on the one hand he is helping you with your son, on the other it must be so hard to see him, knowing that he is carrying on with this married woman. It will make it hard for you to move on if you have to see him so often.
Two families are being broken and deeply hurt by this and that is tragic. They are being extreemly selfish, but its unilkely that it will last, as relationships born out of adultery and cheating rarely do.
Getting legal advise is a good thing to do, and you may want to look into what sort of help you can get for your son, because if they stay together and move in together, he may end up not giving you the support that he has been up till now.
I hate adultery with a passion, as there has been so much of it in my family, and my husbands ex did this also, and I feel for you so much.
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