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Originally Posted by chosen
Yes, you do need to avoid bailing her out. She has to realise what she is doing and what her choices mean. However it seems that either her parents or her boyfriend bail her out anyway, which isn't a good thing.
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I do not think it is necessarily a bad thing (or I always look for the silver lining). Her parents are far from being rich and they must be realising that she is throwing away their money for her fantasy. If the OM is giving her money then he is realising that it is all about money and that he is spending a lot of money on a woman he cannot even be with and that the prospects of being with her in the future are vanishing. My solicitor has told me that, if we establish that he is supporting her, then I have no obligation to support her.
My wife and I (with the advice from our solicitors) are getting into a status quo, with the girls, whereby we all see each other almost every day. Add the fact that the girls going to the local schools is also becoming part of the status quo - my wife herself has applied for spaces for them as far as 2015. If the custody matter gets to court, the judge will first consider the status quo. This means that, considering that my D9 will not go anywhere near the OM too, my wife has no chance of ever taking the girls and going to live with the OM in his county. They both must be realising this now. I expect that, once he sees that this is going nowhere, he will cut off the money supply.