Re: Secret marriage!HELP
Dear Lucy Rose,
In the UK, you can only get married in a church, register office or approved venue. The latter are usually hotels or country houses. You book the registrar separately and they come along with the paperwork. Sometimes couples marry at a register office and then follow that with a ceremony somewhere else but the ceremony at the register office is the legal one where papers are signed. In most churches the papers are signed at the church.
Most churches would be happy to help you renew your vows or have a blessing on a pre-existing ceremony, but surely it would be better to do this up front. When you got married originally you kept it quiet and simple. Now you are inviting everyone to be part of and support you in your marriage. That is a very important step to make, as it is a key part of marriage that it involves your role in your community. You are starting a new family and your friends and family are there to support you in this and hold you accountable to your vows to each other.
Modern culture has made marriage seem a private affair but both marriage and the wider community need each other.
I hope you can find some way to celebrate your marriage in a way that involves all those you love and care for.
Liz
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