Dear CherAnn
It is natural for husband and wife to enjoy a good sexual relationship, but it is also common for difficulties to arise and Christians are not immune from this.
You have said yourself that you both rushed into this marriage before past hurts were healed. It may be that those hurts are still not healed. It is possible that there are things left over from your husband's previous marriage that are affecting him. He may not understand what is wrong.
The more you take it to heart the harder it may be for you both to talk about it or make progress. I do understand that you are deeply hurt by his behaviour, but beneath your words I hear quite deep insecurity. Has making love become the touch stone of whether he really loves you? Do you base your self worth on whether your marriage is going well. Our husbands can never provide that self worth fully - that must come from our relationship with God, then we are freed to love unconditionally and securely.
Can you find it in your heart to be patient with him, to just be physically close with him without any agenda for a while? Can you find your security in the Lord so that this issue between you and your husband doesn't grow out of proportion.
This doesn't have to destroy your marriage. Marital love with God's grace can rise above the hurts and disappointments. Why not
look for ways to express your love to your husband and your love will eventually melt the obstacles and prayer will brign out inot the open what needs healing and dealing with.
With best wishes
Kate