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Old 23rd December 2011, 09:56 AM   #61
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Re: Do I have any hope?

That sounds just right!
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Old 23rd December 2011, 10:15 AM   #62
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Oh good thank you x
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Old 23rd December 2011, 01:42 PM   #63
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Did the book arrive?
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Old 23rd December 2011, 01:53 PM   #64
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SM just arrived back at my house and sat outside. How silly but I dare' nt go in in case its not there. Am pinning my hopes on that book.
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Old 23rd December 2011, 02:00 PM   #65
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Its here, yeh. Thank goodness have just been getting that feeling of fear in my chest again this morning. I really hope I find it hopeful and helpfull, just been shopping and all I could see were couples holding hands thank you for your continued support, hope you are all ok xx
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Old 23rd December 2011, 04:08 PM   #66
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We always notice things like that dont we, if we feel alone. Its like couples who cant have children always noticing other peoples babies:-(
If you feel fear, do some calm deep breathing down into your stomach a few times.
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Old 23rd December 2011, 04:52 PM   #67
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Thank you Chosen you are right.

This book is very interesting and does make sense.

Any ideas what I should do with the presents my H has bought me on xmas day. I don't really want them, but not sure how best to handle it?

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Old 23rd December 2011, 05:06 PM   #68
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My advise it wait and see. If you are going to your brothers then leave them under the tree where they are now.
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Old 23rd December 2011, 06:30 PM   #69
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Hi
If you don't mind me asking this, how old are you roughly? And your h's age?

It seems that both you and your H have had several relationships prior to this one?

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Old 23rd December 2011, 06:51 PM   #70
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Chamomile I am 40, H is 43. This is my 3rd relationship, 1st one 9yrs from the age of 14, he told me he wanted to leave at xmas (thats why this is particularly bad for me this time and H knew how upset I was about that one ending at xmas), second one 14 yrs, my ex would not get married or allow me children, the had an internet affair for 14 mnths before I finally left him (he is still trying to get me back after 3 1/2 yrs) and then this one with my H. Thats not that bad is it lol? H was married for 15 yrs with the lady of his 3 children and left her because he said she was messing around. His 2nd marriage lasted a year and a half, she drank a lot and he said she was messing around too. Hope that gives you a little more background. X
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Old 23rd December 2011, 07:23 PM   #71
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Well H just arrived home, I was perfectly pleasant about the day in general. I had a secret smile as he was asking questions about last night when I went out, what time I came in and asking what good deeds I had done (he has obviously read my facebook status as that is what it says) I actually didnt tell him what my good deeds were, nor what time i got in, I just glossed over it and changed the subject. Most he has spoken to me in days really. He's gone upstairs now to the spare room where hes sleeping, obviously not comfortable sitting with me Am I doing ok? X
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Old 23rd December 2011, 07:52 PM   #72
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OMGoodness, he is talking non stop to me tonight, can't shut him up lol. Now then, advice needed please, he just told me he got paid today so he might as well give me his half of the bill money today for next month. Thought he was leaving? Don't know if hes just pushing his luck or he wants to stay. I didn't know what to say, so didnt say anything. What do you think? Thanks x
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Old 23rd December 2011, 07:55 PM   #73
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Lisa,

Stick with it - just keep to your plan. I think last night has got him thinking - so let him stew a while.

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Old 23rd December 2011, 08:12 PM   #74
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thanks SM, you don't know though do you, he may just be relieved that I'm not crying and begging any more.
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Old 23rd December 2011, 08:16 PM   #75
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Lisa,

No, we don't know. But as we said, what wasn't working before might just be working now.

And I bet you feel better - even if just a tiny bit - that you're not putting your dignity on the line like you were before.

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