Is this love?
Hi,
I have been married now a long time and my wife and I are happy. But a few weeks ago I discovered some pictures of my wife and her one and only boy friend before me. They were at her sisters house who got them from their Mom when she passed away.
She had told me about the guy who she dated for about 3 months but I had never seen any pictures. The pictures of their Prom event just blowed me away.
In the pictures I saw them holding hands (no big deal I know) and my wife wearing his high school ring (which I did not know before).
Well my wife says she only liked the guy and did NOT love him.
But when I look at the situation I see... my wife being very affectionate with him, wearing his high school ring, kissing him, hugging him, going to church with him a couple of times, him coming to her house and meeting her parents, they went to movies skating and such and on their last date they went to a drive in where some "messing around" took place but no intercourse. After that they broke up.
Now my question is doe that seem like a love relationship or could it just be a "like": relationship as my wife says.
I know it is in the past and my head knows that my wife loves me and only me now for many years. But looking at the pictures of her with another guy, before me, just breaks my heart.
I guess I should also say that I did not have an active dating life before my wife. So it is very hard for me to see affection and togetherness as being anything other than love.
Any help, what do you think?
Heartbroken
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