Re: verymuddled
Buttercup
I do feel for you so much. Its clear that you havent got past this awful betrayal, and that isnt surprising. Adultery does deeply affect the marriage in so many ways, and it takes a very long time to rebuild that trust. I admire you for being able to stay in the marriage.
Have you both had any sort of counselling together so that you can talk this through? Has your husband put clear boundaries in place with the opposite sex to stop this happening again? Is he totally repentant and trying hard to regain the trust?
As for your attraction for this other man, the fact that before the affair you had never been interested in anyone else, indicates that it changed the way you see your husband (which isnt at all surprising) and as Helen said, you have done nothing about it and that is the main thing.
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