I am American and Christian, married to a Muslim who lives in Dubai. Originally he was supposed to move to the US but now says he will not leave Dubai and that his Mother is pushing him to marry someone there and have kids, all this after he told me he didn't want kids. I have less than 8 years left to retire from a government job and now he says he wants me to move to Dubai when I retire and that we could arrange visits between now and then but he would be taking a second wife in the meantime!! So now I have to share my new husband with a wife who is younger, who lives there and who will be having kids with him and seeing him all the time while I will see him once or twice a year at best!!I am picturing that if I went there to live it would be a life with almost no time with my husband because he would always be with his second wife and kids even though I am the first wife. Has anyone ever been a second wife or had to deal with another wife in a marriage and what can I expect? I'm thinking it's not going to be something I want to do. In addition, I know his Mother does not approve of me at all, it was quite obvious because I am a lot older than him so I'm thinking I would be ignored or almost snubbed by the family if I actually lived there.