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Old 3rd January 2011, 03:15 PM   #1
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Unhappy she wants to take my son away

We had been married for 15years and 3 children, she had been cheating on me and blamed it on me that i neglected her. i moved out with me two son's at the time 9 and 4 years old my daughter 14 stayed with her. We had joint custody but i had legal guardianship over the two boys. after 6 months we started to talk about every thing and started to try and work things out 8 months after that we moved back in the same home. we didn't fight we lived a very nice life for around 5 years, out of now where she handed me the divorce papers?????? i was in such disbelieve, she field on irreconcilable differences, she said it was to close the old chapter and start a new one i cried but did go with it, i moved out of the home i could only afford a little 1 bed room so the kids staid with her. i was miserable. the youngest son stayed with me all the time he never wanted to go home. after the divorce was final she asked if wanted to move back home i said yes and came home. The children wanted that. latter i realsed what i have done, with the divorce we still had joint custody but she was awarded legal guardianship. we lived together for 2 years the children and i felt very safe and loved, we have always made mom the center of our lives. then she accused me of having an affair (when i worked, spent all of my off time with her and the kids, lost most of my friends) i told her that's not true i never would do that. so she forced me to move out again, our daughter was 20 she had her own place my 16 year old son said i cant leave his mom alone and wanted to stay with her, it was hard for me but i was ok with it. as i was packing up my stuff and moving it to my new apartment my 11 year old son said dad i'm coming with you. she freaked out and did not want that i was sooooooo happy. so i asked her one more time to think about this, she said no she cant do this anymore. we moved out, not even 2 weeks later she had accidentally sent me and some other man nude pics on her cell phone. so she admitted to having a boyfriend now that she loves just after 2 weeks of moving out????? she stopped by a few times a week after work to spend a 15-30 min with her son, she spent saturdays with him at my house because i work weekends. and she let him spend the night only on tuesdays. but in 10 months he only stayed with his mom maybe 10-14 night. he feels that she doesn't want him around because of her now second boyfriend. all thou he lives with me the still take the child support out of my pay and give it to her and she gives it back to me. but i found a good women that wants to have my son and me in her life. my ex wife freaked out, swore that her son would never live in the same house as a another women, and now she is trying to take my son away from me, he refuses to leave my side we are so close to each other. what can i do to stop her from splitting us apart????????? please help us......
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Old 3rd January 2011, 05:38 PM   #2
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Re: she wants to take my son away

Kill-lmt Why did you move out of the home? Your wife is obviously being unfaithful to you but why should you just be in a room?

If the case goes legal having a home will obviously be crucial. Normally both parents have access so there is no way that will be denied to you. You have a case going for you in that the 11 yr old wanted to be with you. I am sure that will be taken into account.

On paper you could have legal guardianship like you had before. There is a case history on this already there and that will be referred to in the courts.

Being in the home would have helped as it would be a home for the children. If she doesn't want to be married she should leave really.

I'm not a legal expert but on a human level you are the innocent party here.

There is hope in that you have met someone else who could also be a mother to your children but obviously this will be contested. I would try and work it out with your wife on a personal level before it has to go to court.
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Old 17th February 2011, 01:56 PM   #3
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as for the legal side if they kid is of a mature age he can choose who he wants to live with. the courts will be able to see that you have allways provided for the kids and allways put there interest at hearts and that you geniuly tried to make the marriage work but didnt happen. now you got a chance to live a new life (as it were with another women), there by enabling you to get some thing better than a one bed apartment.

emotionaly. sounds as if because you have moved on she wants to spite you for it by stating she is going to get full custidoy of your child, sounds as if she hate the fact you have moved on and wants pay back for it.

from what i can gather i would guess (i may be wrong and this is just personnel opinion) that her new boyfriend wont last long and she will want you to move back in as before kinda like a safty line she thinks you will allways be there for her and that gives her comfort, but when you said you was seeing some one she flew in a rage cause now she dosent have that safty its like taking somthing away from a baby it cries and gets upset and angry but eventuly calms down.(i may be entierley wrong this is just my personnel idea if you dont like what i have said please say so and i will remove my comment)

hope i could help a bit
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Old 17th February 2011, 03:38 PM   #4
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Look up on the internet family law solicitor for your area. Contact them and get a 30 minute or 1 hr free consultation. They will then be able to tell you free of charge what your options are. From there you will have a better platform to fight this

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Old 17th February 2011, 04:48 PM   #5
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What I dont get is why you went back home after you were divorced?
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Old 18th February 2011, 01:44 AM   #6
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Lawyer up.

I mean: GET A BRIEF or at least some serious legal advice and representation. Otherwise you will lose everything and your son AND end up paying for it.

The law and courts these feminazi days are so biased towards the wife/mother, even if she is the 'guilty' party, you'll get legally ar**raped every which way to Sunday and back again.

You think men dress up in Spiderman customs and hang off tall buildings for the good of their health?

Ok, that was my advice as a husband and father. Now my advice as a Xian: Walk away, understand that your son is a man now. Tell him the truth and tell him that you will always be there at the end of an email or cell phone, that your door is always open for him and that you love him and if he wants then the day he turns 18 there is a bed in your new house for him.

Unless you're Catholic ,your duty is now to the new 'wife', to yourself and not to the adulteress .

"not even 2 weeks later she had accidentally sent me and some other man nude pics on her cell phone" By accident....right..sure....are you really THAT stupid?

Sorry if the tone of this post seems hurtful but sometimes you have to shoot from the hip, even with a bucket full of agape.

Last edited by Shinars Basket Case; 18th February 2011 at 01:48 AM. Reason: Grammar (thinking in English makes my head huUUUurt)
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