Choosing the Right One: 16 Questions to ask yourself before you marry
By David Sunshine
Analyze Your Relationship
In this section we will look at your relationship with your partner to see whether the two of you are likely to have a good marriage.
Question #1: Do you enjoy being with your partner? Do you look for-ward to the next time youíll see each other?
Youíll be spending a lot of time togetheróhopefully, the rest of your livesóso itís important that you enjoy each otherís company.
Question #2: Are you comfortable confiding your thoughts and se-crets to your partner? Do you view him or her as a close friend?
Thatís important. If for some reason youíre uncomfortable confiding in the person, ask yourself why. Odds are that the two of you havenít yet achieved the level of intimacy needed to consider marriage. You may need more time to let the relationship develop.
Feelings of Inferiority
Question #3: Does one of you feel either inferior or superior to the other?
Research has shown that people who considered their partners su-perior to them felt guilty and insecure in their relationship, whereas those who considered their partners inferior had to deal with feelings of anger toward them. The most stable relationships occur between partners who view themselves as equals.
Question #4: Can you be open with your partner when you disagree with him or her, or are you afraid to speak up for yourself? Are there issues the two of you are already unable to discuss? Does your part-ner have a tendency to avoid or withdraw from conflict?
Honest, open communication is at the core of a good marriage. The two of you should be able to express whatís bothering you without engaging in insults, and without having the conversation turn into a shouting match.